My husband and I just celebrated 10 years of marriage. We were overwhelmed by support from friends and family. Messages poured in through social media and texts: “What an accomplishment!”https://www.timesfreepress.com/news/2024/feb/03/first-things-first-gauging-marital-health-vs/”A huge success!”https://www.timesfreepress.com/news/2024/feb/03/first-things-first-gauging-marital-health-vs/”A whole decade of life together under your belt!”
While it felt good to look back over the years and note the milestones we’ve accomplished together, I couldn’t help but think: Is a length of time the best measure of marital success? What about the health of the relationship?
While it is crucial for couples to celebrate their anniversary and every milestone in their relationship together, I sometimes worry we (as a collective society) put more emphasis on the number of years than we should. It can be easy to assume because two people have stayed together for a significant amount of time, they have a thriving relationship.